Do straight guys like gay guys
I recently finished reading Dr. Robert Garfield’s terrific new guide, Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship, and last week participated in a joint interview with him by Dr. Dan Gottlieb on WHYY (National General Radio) in Philadelphia. This all got me thinking about my own friendships and those of my gay male clients. The bonds between gay men and straight women have been written about and featured in popular media (i.e. Sex in the City, Will and Grace), though a lot less has been said about how homosexual and straight men recognize and negotiate the distinct challenges, complications, and rewards of their friendships.
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According to Garfield, among the many obstacles to male-male platonic intimacy, terror of homosexuality looms large. Straight men fret that if they get too close, others will see them as gay; which in their minds means feminine (horrors!), powerless, and perverted. Perhaps even scarier is that their sentimental connections will somehow morph into sexual attraction. Interestingly, in the U.S., before there was such a thing as a gay culture, some straight men would, with petite shame, engage in sexual contact with other men (usually allo
Why do some direct men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Merged States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the fresh book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom like hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva establish that they relax a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to possess more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to object homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they found it erotic to watch two straight men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men kiss. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by linear men? Some even like straight men over same-sex attracted men!
Before I get readers insisting that not all gay men are attracted to straight men, allow me say I realize that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to admit that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue straight men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In fact, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male -- that every gay bloke is going to need to hit on him -- gay men own silenced themselves on this topic
What do straight guys really think about guys who are gay?
gman_AK1
I recently accepted that I am gay. It has been rough for a variety of reasons, including fear that straight guys will think I am a freak. I wonder what straight guys really consider about gay guys. Do you wonder why the hell we aren’t attracted to women? Perform you think we turned our wrong? Do you find us disgusting? If I promise you it won’t hurt my feelings, do you guys feel relaxed telling me what you really think of guys who are gay?
DrDeth2
Just another person, to be judged by their actions. Equal with trans ect.
Like I contain said- I don’t care which restroom you use- just wash your hands!
Here on this board you will generally find us welcoming.
Unless you’re a trump supporter.
Roderick_Femm3
I recently accepted that I am gay.
Congratulations. It took me a long time to appear to terms with my retain sexuality.
I think you’ll find that “straight men” is not a monolithic group with uniform reactions. Some will react as you fear they might, others will have no particular reaction, still others will be just as curious about you as you are about them. It may help to re