Gay men pee
Dear Co-worker,
I couldn’t facilitate but notice your discomfort while standing next to you at the urinal in the office bathroom yesterday. Creature a gay male, I’m no stranger to the discomforts straight men experience by my mere presence; particularly in communal spaces enjoy restrooms, locker rooms, saunas, parks, bars, sidewalks, classrooms, subway cars, matinee showings of The Manual Of Mormon, or any other room that we inhabit at the alike time. I just want to place your mind at ease by letting you know that I hear you and see you… and I enjoy what I see.
Your knee-jerk instinct to hide your member from me may seem homophobic to the vast majority of people since it’s borne out of a faith that gay men are constantly prowling for straight men, but you’re not the vast majority of people. You knew that my favorite thing in the world is to stand next to another male and stare at his ugly, fleshy, leaking genitalia.
The urinal is a lgbtq+ man’s number one penis viewing basis. I don’t even have to pee when I step up to one. Gay men don’t pee standing up. We do it on all fours while screaming Madonna lyrics. I frequent urinals for one purpose: the trembling, splotchy dick that fits in two and a half
Homophobia in the Bathroom
For many men, taking a piss at the office is apparently a “nightmarish” experience. That’s one of the many fascinating things we study in Julie Beck’s engrossing essay on the psychological minefield that is the public bathroom, published today in the Atlantic. We all know people who execute their best to avoid defecating outside the privacy of place, but the fears and fantasies that Beck explores in her piece are almost Sadeian in detail—paranoia about seeing and creature seen, elaborate attempts to construct sonic shields, and most of all, a deep sense that the perils of humiliation and social opprobrium waiting on the other side of the restroom door may very well outweigh the relief of relieving oneself.
Before potty puns get the improve of me, I want to highlight one of the more striking themes of the piece—the rupture of spacetime risked when two men realize that they will have to urinate side-by-side. According to a study from which Beck draws some of her material, “the anxiety [men] reported was centered around ‘watching’—being watched by other men, or being perceived to be watching other men—and that this watching was linked to the possibility of sexu
It’s a busy Saturday evening in my local pub. After three vodka sodas with fresh lime and a splash of cranberry (yes, I’m gay), the familiar tingle of my bladder greets me. After heading to the men’s toilets, my fears are confirmed: they’re mobbed. Not only is the cubicle engaged, but the dreaded queue for urinals is, unlike me, in occupied flow.
For a guy who doesn’t like peeing at urinals, these circumstances present two choices. First, you wait in a separate, somehow more humiliating queue for a cubicle, publicly signalling to every man in sight that you’re desperate for a shit – even though you aren’t. Alternatively, you can wait it out, hoping that when you get there your bladder will perform. Regrettably, I choose the second option. After about 30 seconds of inaction, the panic sets in, soon evolving into full-blown mental catastrophe as I realise that nothing is coming. I quickly improvise a show of faux penis shaking and hand drying, before exiting sheepishly.
I’ve always hated using urinals. It almost always ends in the above result, unless I’ve had seven of my beloved vodka sodas. As a gay gentleman, I’ve got
Sexual health for gay and bi-curious men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to hand over on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the exposure of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV try every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is vital, as some STIs do not lead to any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can gain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated diet and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can emerge up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a complete recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se